There are many topics that bring up emotions. Often to boiling point. Wars have started due to leaders emotions. Churches split due to emotions. Many people, give opinions, on issues they have never experienced themselves. May they never experience some of these heart-breaking, heart wrenching issues. They would certainly sing a different song, if they had to experience the pain of those who have been through such pains. So, let’s look at the 2nd most stressful situation in life. First is death. The second most stressful situation in life is divorce. That’s a fact. Google it. Or better still, try to understand those who have been through it. They know what they are talking about. Divorce is never the ideal. Pro 21:9. Some people have to endure living pain. Broken relationship. Yet, we do not live in a culture where polygamy is permitted, even if it was in OT times. So, a person is stuck in a miserable marriage. Few can endure that daily pain. Few. It takes strength to wake up in daily misery. The other side of this is for the legalists- James 2: 10. Whoever stumbles at one point of law, 613 OT and 1,050 NT, breaks all. So we must ask a reflective question? Am I a sinner? So, out of 1,663 commands, you say “this one is more important than the other”. God never said that at all. Never. What Jesus did say, what his whole ministry is about, is compassion for the broken hearted. Divorced people are more broken hearted than anyone else. They have suffered rejection, judgment, humiliation, for a poor marriage decision. They have suffered at the tongues of the hypocrites who break hundreds of the 1,663 commands, they have the audacity to sit in judgement of one divorced person; who by the way, is accepted by God Rom 14: 4. Who are you to judge anyone, when the ministry of Jesus, is to bring the broken hearted to himself. Divorced by a woman, I have been. I understand daily misery. So, I guess I have the right to speak. Have you been through what I have? Yet you sit in judgement on me? Sad. The ministry of Jesus, is to set the captives free. Spiritually yes. And yet, each and every single spiritual freedom, has, must have a physical trauma, in order to be set spiritually free. There is not a spiritual freedom, which is not tied up without a corresponding physical pairing. So, you deny a person freedom, from a rotten marriage, whilst you commit immorality or 1,662 other sins. Lust of eyes, flesh, etc... You who hide your sins in darkness, sit in judgement on the heart broken, and wish chains on them, which you yourself have Rom 2:1. You sit on judgement of one sin, whilst you are guilty of hundreds. If it is a sin, it is between the person and God. You have no say in anyone’s life except for yours. I don’t have the heart to wish a miserable marriage on you- may you be miserable in your life. No, I couldn’t ever do that. But may you open your eyes to the meaning of freedom for the captives. Many classes of captivity. And if you don’t want to have compassion, and you want legalism, then read Mt 6: 15. You don’t forgive? You won’t be forgiven. There is only one unforgiveable sin, and it’s not divorce- that is, if divorce is a sin. Work out first if it is a sin, or it is freedom. Then either way you decide, don’t be a legalist, or you will be judged as such. And you will fall. But understand the meaning of, his mercies are new every day. Understand the meaning of, I will remember no more. Careful how you judge others. It will come back to you. From a divorced miserable person. Be compassionate.
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